How Happiness Happens



…“Before enlightenment, I used to be depressed: after enlightenment, I continue to be depressed.” But there’s a difference: I don’t identify with it anymore. Do you know what a big difference that is?


You step outside of yourself and look at that depression, and don’t identify with it. You don’t do a thing to make it go away; you are perfectly willing to go on with your life while it passes through you and disappears. If you don’t know what that means, you really have something to look forward to. And anxiety? There it comes and you’re not troubled. How strange! You’re anxious but you’re not troubled.


Isn’t that a paradox? And you’re willing to let this cloud come in, because the more you fight it, the more power you give it. You’re willing to observe it as it passes by. You can be happy in your anxiety. Isn’t that crazy? You can be happy in your depression. But you can’t have the wrong notion of happiness. Did you think happiness was excitement and thrills? That’s what causes the depression. Didn’t anyone tell you that? You’re thrilled alright, but you’re just preparing the way for the next depression. You’re thrilled but you pick up the anxiety behind that: How can I make it last? That’s not happiness, that’s addiction."


"Suffering is given to you that you might open your eyes to the truth,..."

Clinging to Illusion

"There is yet another illusion, that it is important to be respectable, to be loved and appreciated, to be important...

"Drop this illusion and you will find happiness. We have a natural urge to be free, a natural urge to love, but not to be loved."

Getting Real

"But then you'll have to deal with the big villain, and that villian is self-condemnation, self-hatred, self-dissatisfaction."

What's on your Mind?

"And so in order to wake up, the one thing you need the most is not energy, or strength, or youthfulness, or even great intelligence. The one thing you need most of all is the readiness to learn something new. The chances that you will wake up are in direct proportion to the amount of truth you can take without running away."


His Four Steps to Wisdom

1) Identify your negative feelings
2) Understand that they are in you, not in the world, 
not in external reality
3) Stop identifying your essence with your feelings, feelings come and go
4) Understand that your perspective is what needs to change and when it changes, everything changes

 The books of Father Anthony de Mello were written in a multi-religious context to help the followers of other religions,agnostics and atheists in their spiritual search, and they were not intended by the author as manuals of instruction of the Catholic faithful in Christian doctrine or dogma.The Master in these tales is not a single person. He is a Hindu Guru, a Zen Roshi, a Taoist Sage, a Jewish Rabbi, a Christian Monk, a Sufi Mystic, Lao-tzu, Socrates, Buddha, Jesus, Zarathustra and Mohammed. His wisdom belongs to East and West alike. Thanks, Pandu